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Stubbornmum
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    Nov 30, 2009 at 11:13 PMReply with quote#5
Dear Mighty!! (I know your tired but you are mighty)

I have gone through this and I ate EVERYTHING hoping my d would see me as a role model.
Now I am slowly regaining my genetic set point and health, so I have gained a lot through out this ordeal.
Firstly this ordeal will cause you to question a LOT about image, and ask if the world is as mad as you feel, I have come to relax a LOT about my body and the image and the fact that I am approaching middle age etc etc.

Yes demons will whisper in your ear also, talk to someone so you can deal with all the stress.

The initial stage is intense, and maybe you could find a way to get up early and get your walk in before the house awakes, or you can escape when your partner is home in the evening, or any other time your d is safe.
I gave up the exercise also and now I do regret it but I am now taking walks with my d and we do chat and enjoy it. (My d was a runner so this exercise is a step down for her)

I found it did help my d if we as a family ate the same meals or snacks but she did have the power shakes and Sustagen that I didnt and although we had resistance she did eventually have them also.

ED will pick up the differences in food and portions trying very hard to find wriggle room, but maybe you could let ED know that the food she required to eat is her medicine, that you do not require the same nutrition to fuel your body.

Be prepared for ED to possible fuss and cry but stand firm.

I also posted a recent story that was in the Age here in Melbourne, you are indulging yourself because fats have been proven to remap the brain the same way anti-depressants do, those choc treats (if thats what you like) will help you feel better and be able to be positive, so maybe be kind to yourself when under this stress and wind back later when things settle (and they will)

I have slowly returned to my genetic set weight and I am relaxed about the gain because my body tells my story the same as my wrinkles.
And like when we had our babies our bodies changed, my body changed rebirthing my d after ED and will change again as I move forward into life.

Do not feel ashamed you are a wonderful mum facing a horrendous diagnosis but you will overcome.
   
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