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My d has never been much for clothes shopping, and then she was stuck in that godawful quagmire of not feeling like she deserves anything nice for so long.  Normally, I just buy her clothes and see if she will wear them, but recently she has been asking to go shopping.  I can't tell you how much I enjoyed shopping with her at the mall today and seeing her feeling free to want nice things after all these years.

And I'm also grateful for my FEASTIE friends who are the only people in the world who can understand this.  For those still stuck in the abyss ... hang in there.  It really DOES get better. xx

-Torie

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Hi Torie, lovely, lovely news. I'm so happy for you both.

I get where you're coming from and I'm thrilled because my D is wearing pretty summer dresses after months of baggy trousers and jumpers.

Great that things are going well for your daughter x

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Oh,I hear you-it's so nice when they start wanting to care for themselves again and feel deserving of treats like new clothes...we must look like weirdos to other parents cause we get so excited!iknow I do anyway, I love shopping with both my girls [smile]
Enjoy it Torie,you are always do lovely cheering on everyone here,so lovely to hear your own good news 😍

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Yay Torie!!!  Confession:  I hate shopping with a passion but I do love taking my daughter out shopping so I take one for the team and take her when she asks [biggrin]
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Hi Torie,
I can understand what you feel and its really true that nobody else can understand this but us. I dance a little dance for you here in Germany! I had the same feelings when my d left the hospital 3 months ago and went shopping with her friend the first time and got some trousers, still xs, but fitting again!
Thanks for all your lovely words. People like you help us not to give up.
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I totally hear ya, Torie! So many instances of ordinary life for most ppl that become magical to us [smile] when my son asks for snack, I think "gosh, you're hungry again!". When my AN D asks the same question, I am see heavens opening! Lol (ok, it happened only once, yet) Anyway, I feel your joy!
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Dear Torie, 
I was so happy last year when I saw your story on stories of hope.

Now you have moved on another huge milestone, shopping is a big one, and can be  oh so tricky!

I am so glad that you had a lovely experience at the mall, and wish you many more to come.
You are an inspiration Torie, and you sure have helped me, and many many others here with your wisdom.
Enjoy your well deserved success...
Cheers!
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Hooray!  Another wonderful milestone!  So happy to hear this...might seem like a small thing to others, but we all know how significant it is.  
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Great news 😁, thanks for sharing!
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Yay Torie! How exciting! We had SO many awful experiences surrounding shopping over the years, I totally get it. Job well done!!
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That's so exciting!!!

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Thanks for sharing your good news Torie!  That's wonderful!  It's so sweet to enjoy the little "normal" things.  When it happens with my D it makes my heart leap for joy!  But I keep calm and just gently smile.

So happy for you and your D! [thumb]
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Thanks, all.  It's amazing how helpful it is to have so many FEASTIE friends who always always always understand ... in good times and in bad.

On another thread, Tina wrote, "At lunch my d told me today the steak I gave her was TOO SMALL...[biggrin] I think NOBODY but you girls/guys will understand why I wear that grin in my face today..."

Haha, yes!!!  Smiling for you, Tina!  Cherish the moment.  xx

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Hi all you fighters,
let us share all the wonderful moments which give us a glimpse of what life could be again...[smile]
the first shopping
the first dinner in a restaurant
the first "second plate"
No one like us can take so much power from such an "insignificant" message...Keep on going. Keep on fighting.
Thanks, Torie.
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Wonderful news! Thanks for sharing Torie!
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