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mbsmom

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Hi,
For those of you with kiddos that have recovered or close to recovered do your kids enjoy eating again? Do they have pleasure in it?



I just watched this Ted Talk and dr. laura hill describes how anorexia patients lose their pleasure of food. Is that typical and does that return as the brain heals and the child is exposed to the food over time?

I wonder if its similar to when I have anxiety and the anxiety is so intense that my ability to "enjoy" my favorite foods is gone until my anxiety lowers and my appetite is back.
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Mine seems to!  She's back to the same likes/dislikes that she had before she had anorexia, and she joins in with family mealtimes quite happily, joining in with the conversation etc.  She appears to eat intuitively and sometimes eats cos she just fancies something.  It's great to see!  And hugely relieving.

My spidery radar is always on the look out, though...  I wonder if I'll ever lose that?
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Thanks for the quick reply Ping_Pong! So glad your d is enjoying her favorites again! That video kinda freaked me out. The idea that some never enjoy the pleasure of food again saddens me. The "head noise" she shared in the video was also upsetting.
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My d seems back to her old self so far as enjoying food.  Brain healing is a wonderful thing!  xx

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Just in the last month my son has started to say a few things I am so happy to hear:
- I like these crackers
- bolognaise is my favourite dinner
- this dinner is yum
I try not to over react with joy.
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Hi mbsmom,
anorexia learned me one thing: I do not believe the word "never" any more.
My d said she will "never" eat pizza again. She does.
She said she will "never" eat sweets again. She does.
She said she will "never" weight xy again. She does.

So in our case (and I think this is very individual, too) my d really didn´t lost the possibily to enjoy food. Anorexia just didn´t allow it for some time.
The more the inner AN voice was quiet, the more she enjoyed the food again.
Today I hear every day that xy is delicious or that I cooked a very good lunch. So I think yes, she enjoys food again.
But it also depends on stress. I see that she is more automatically eating with less fun when she is stressed about something.

What I am curious about is if she will develop some intuitive eating in future. She is still very fixed on the meal plan, just a bit snacking around it.
I can live with that as long as this routine will help her to eat enough. But I hope she will get more relaxed with that in future.

Tina72
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Thanks Torie, donotdespair and tina72,

So happy to hear they are all enjoying their food. 😊Last week when my s had milk for the first time in months he said it tasted good. I was not expecting that at all. I didnt make a big deal out of it - just said "good". He also ate cheese homemade cheese pizza last Friday and will again tonight. I didnt ask if he liked it(dont want to make a big deal out of it - just normal) but my dh asked later that night (he wasnt home for dinner) and he said it was good. Oh and Wednesday this week my s came home from school - grabbed two snacks and poured himself a glass of milk! I was so happy! Writing all of this down so I can see his progress when I am feeling fearful. Next on the list is animal protein. That will be a tough one for him so giving him a little more time for brain healing before we introduce that back.

Thanks for all the replies.
Xo
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Hi mbsmom,
that is great news!!! The pizza-test!!! [thumb][thumb][thumb]
"grabbed two snacks and poured himself a glass of milk" - YEAH!!!
You can be so totally proud of what you have achieved by now!
And so right that you didn´t make a big deal about it.
Write that all down, you need it to see the progress and it keeps you fighting on days that are not that great.
Keep on going!
Send you a big hug!
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Thanks Tina72! I need the cheering. ❤ Blows my mind how much my parenting confidence plummeted since my s was diagnosed. Having anxiety myself I have a tendency to "what if" myself to death. Working on that. Xoxo
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Same with me...[biggrin]
But in some way you will get used to it. If I can say something like that.

What if he will recover 100%?
What if he can live a totally normal teenager life?
What if...?

If you will see more progress, your parenting confidence will come back. Your parenting was no way wrong. No one prepared us to deal with such a bastard.

Try to do something nice for yourself and hubby. Don´t let AN destroy your family or your marriage.
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Love this Tina72! What if he will fully recover and live a totally normal teenager life is a much better thought! Yes, as he progresses I will feel more confident and less anxious.

I can see how this could tear a family and marriage apart. Making a point to continue to do family as normal as possible including spending time with my husband. Thank you for the reminder.
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Yay...come here to unleash your inner 'happy mama' when your s shows progress...eating pizza is fantastic!

It really does help to 'play it cool' when your s does something unexpected, such as taking a snack without being asked, trying a new food without complaint, etc.  I became a master of the 'blank face' during times such as these...even though I was cheering inside!

The other thing I can say is that an ED in the family really did wreak havoc on my marriage, and it took a very long time to overcome the challenges that ED threw up for us.  As tina72 says, making time to do some special with your h is a great thing.  But don't be surprised if it takes quite some time to get back into the groove...

Hang in there,
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I found this article helpful what to look for at recovery :

http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/after-weight-restoration-envisioning-recovery/
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Hi
Yes my S enjoys food again, and also will try new things for fun.
Best wishes

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery,  and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Hi Mbsmom, so glad your son is getting better. Well done!!![biggrin]

I'm happy to hear he is grabbing snacks on his own, I'm still struggling with my d to take her own snacks. Although weight restored for nearly a year, brain healing didn't start until 6 months later. She would eat whatever is in front of her, she won't show enjoyment (although one time I saw her licking the lid of a dairy dessert, so there is hope). When asked to pick a snack, she would always go for the low calorie snack and then I have to prompt her to take a bigger one.

I also needed to help my d with animal protein. She refused a ham and cheese sandwich, so I only gave her a cheese sandwich until she was comfortable eating them. Then I added ham, she was reluctant, but I reminded her that she used to eat animal protein and eventually she ate it. Maybe you can start slowly, ask your son which of the following protein he would like to try: ham, may be easier than a steak. Maybe start with a plain tasting fish, such as Basa. If it's still too difficult, you can wait a couple of months to see if continual brain healing would help. Would he take protein shakes? There are plenty out there containing plant based protein powder.

Good luck!  

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D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for a year and WR at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her. Now working on intuitive eating.
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Hi mbsmom
My d seems to enjoy her food now
I think that video is SO good, my d said it made her cry when she watched it the other day when Laura had the voices in the microphone my d said “Mum this is what no one can understand “
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