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Is it normal for someone with an ED to have personality changes? I'm just trying to figure out if my gf has an ED or if something else is going on. (I know I'm not a doctor, but she refuses to see one).
She was one of the bravest person I have ever knew, but recently she changed a lot. She's extremely needy, a little bit depressed sometimes, really insecure (Not only about the way she looks, buy her choices too) and is becoming very introvert . She's also angry when someone tells her to eat.
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Yep, normal. They tend to get depressed (even suicidal), tend to isolate, and develop self-loathing. It's like they are living in a black cloud. Take care. xx
-Torie __________________ " We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP ♡
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This sounds like typical eating disorder behaviour,
This video may explain, the brain is not functioning correctly.. One other warning, deterioration of the sufferer can take place rapidly, over weeks or even days and hours......I urge you to seek professional help, Kali posted a good place to start, as well as writing to her parents to inform them. __________________ Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, and Living life to the full, like a "normal" teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Yes, in the beginning of my daughters anorexia (only diagnosed a few months ago) it was like she was only half there, withdrawn, moody, silent, didn't want to go anywhere or see anyone.... it was the quiet before the storm. Once we started the refeeding process a completely different "personality" emerged which I now know to be another aspect of her ED - screaming, tantrums, threats of which we had never experienced before. If I think back now, the quiet moodiness pre-dated her visual weight loss by a few months. We just put it down to puberty, hormones and let her have some space....but once we could see the kg's were dropping it got very bad very quickly, literally within weeks she had a grayish tinge to her skin, cold hands, sleeping alot but up extremely early. We were lucky and caught it just before the point of hospitilisation....but only just. Still not WR, but making progress with hard fought for 3 meals, 3 snacks and 2 smothies a day. Trust your instincts always xx
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Sorry that you find yourself on this forum, but this is a great place to get advice and support.
What you describe sounds very familiar. My daughter gradually stopped wanting to do activities out of the house, got introverted, obsessive about things, apathetic and cut her social group down to one friend. When she started noticeably losing weight, she got REALLY irritable, anxious and low.
As Rose said, during refeeding she became really violent at mealtimes (completely and utterly out of character for her), but thanks to the amazing support here we got through that and those behaviours stopped as she gained weight. I always saw them as fight/flight because she was terrified of eating.
Even when my daughter got back to a healthy weight, her personality was different for many months, and it's only been very recently that I'd say she's back to her old self. It was as if she'd developed ASD. Her social skills seemed to vanish, she'd say the same thing over and over, she'd need to know exactly what was happening and when, she couldn't cope with changes, and she got super-obsessive in her interests.
I don't want to frighten you with this, but I think it's helpful to know what it can be like. We learned as we went. The positive thing is that when they're near recovery the personality changes seem to start to drop off.
The anger about having to eat rings alarm bells for me too - definitely important to somehow get her to the doc, because the quicker you can get onto if it is an eating disorder, the better.
Thinking of you x please let us know how you get on.