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sunshine1974

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My almost 15 year old daughter was diagnosed in Feb with anorexia and we have yet to reach that magic number for complete weight restoration.  It has been a tumultuous ride and very, very emotionally exhausting.  Last night it became apparent as we sat on the couch with my youngest daughter (who will be 13 in March) that she starting to restrict.  We confronted her on it.  She argued and denied it.  And then let a couple of things slip before bursting into tears and telling me that she needs to lose weight, be on a diet and doesn't want to be how she is.  I'm scared!  I'm scared because in grade 5 she was diagnosed with an eating disorder.  She received treatment and was quickly weight restored.  I'm scared for her.  And selfishly I am scared for me.  I don't know how I would handle two anorexics at the same time.  I'm already emotionally spent.
So much focus has been on her sister.  She has been acting out towards her sister and has become very angry and resentful towards her.  Now I feel that its a 'if you can't beat em, then join em' scenario. Help! [frown]
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Sunshine - I'm so very sorry to read about this latest development with little d.  You know what to do, and it sounds like you caught it early.  But so sorry you have to face this demon in duplicate.

Strength and hugs,

Torie

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sunshine1974,

I am so sorry to hear this.  I know there are other parents on the forum who are or have been in a similar situation with 2 children with EDs at the same time.  I'm sure they will be along soon with support and guidance.

In the meantime . . . what other support do you have?  Other family members?  Friends?  Professionals?  

Thinking of you . . .

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My heart goes to you, sunshine! It is impossible to pour from an empty cup, and in no way it's selfish to be concerned about yourself. The ship would sink without you! We all know how draining this monster is, and all of us ended up absolutely mentally and emotionally empty even before their journey was over (I raise my hand). Even the cliché : "you're stronger than you think" seems such a bullshit with this monster, in my opinion. However, you are strong  but recognize the limits and  take breaks to catch a breath while a support person can take over. Can you create some plan as to feeding, more support, even some medicinal help for yourself? is there a way to request for a nurse to come to your house? See if there are more support options avail. 
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So sorry to hear that you now have two with eating disorders. It is a hard road. We are here to metaphorically hold your hand, feel free to say how unfair it is, because it is. 
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