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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery, (Phase 3 ) and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Thank you tf no birthday cake eaten just yet but im better place
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oh I definitely think that my wifes eating disorders are mostly her parents fault.  I am so angry at the both of them.

when she was 5, her dad used to sexually abuse her and when she was visiting him he'd lock her in a closet and only take her out of the closet to force her to do sexual things.  in exchange for those sexual facvors he would give her food.  So in her mind, eating was directly linked with the sexual abuse.  He made that connection in her brain and there's nothing I or anyone else can do to get rid of it.

then when my wife got older, into her preteens her mom was always saying things to make her feel self conscious about her body.  giving her grief about her weight.  This mom was also always on a diet and talked about weight loss as if it was the epitome of success.  So i think my wife learned to associate being thin with being successful and also with her mother's approval.  

i can't vouch for other cases of anorexia but I don't think it's purely genetic/physical like diabetes.  I think for many it comes out of the experience of trauma and/or is a way of coping with the trauma.  
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Chester, I am sorry that your wife has been subjected to abuse and that she still is living with the trauma this has caused her. I know from your previous post that the trauma history is very complex. 

You do mention that your wife's mother has responsibility too for her eating disorder, in particular comments about weight, diet and approval. The thing is this is normal for young women today. It is not just mother's, it is friends, sisters and boyfriends, media etc. who talk this way. There is however very little evidence that this causes eating disorders. It does influence dieting behaviour. It does influence feelings about weight and appearance, however in themselves these are not eating disorders. What these comments seem to do is make people more vulnerable to engage in disordered eating, and it is this which seems to leave people vulnerable to eating disorders. If it was as simple as these sorts of comments most women would develop an eating disorder, including myself. That was my mother exactly.  



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