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mnmomUSA

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Wanted to share just a brief note of how life is going to be for all of you when you persevere and get your child through the nightmare of an ED.  I was living that nightmare 4 years ago in a major way....my daughter was in the hospital hooked up to an IV and heart monitor as she was dangerously underweight.  Yet, still she resisted eating.  "I hate you" and "you're ruining my life" were her favorite phrases, followed by "your insane, I'm perfectly fine."  For months, and (yes) years after, she was counting peas on her plate to make sure I wasn't feeding her "too much."  And, on and on and on.  I do not need to remind any of you of what that is like.

But, we are now in a solid recovery.  Yesterday, she signed up for the Panera rewards program, and she texted me, excitedly (ALL CAPS): "Mom, you get a free pastry when you sign up!!!!!"  I would never have believed that a "free" pastry could generate that much excitement and enthusiasm 4 years ago.  It's those kind of little things that happen all the time these days, with no problem whatsoever.  And, when she purchased her prom dress and discovered that it was a wee bit tight, she said "I'll just get the larger size then."  Like big whoop.  LOL.   I am so proud of her.



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So happy to hear of the progress your d has made, and that your family is no longer dealing with the challenges of ED!

Thanks for sharing your positive update...it will encourage & inspire those families still in the trenches.

Wishing continued good health and recovery to your d, and a big fist bump to you for hanging in there, & helping your d through such a difficult time!

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Yay!!!!

My d texted me last night from her room :

" mom I have the SATS tomorrow so I need a really solid breakfast. Would you make me some hardcore oatmeal?"

So I did and she ate it all up.

And we went to NYC and ate at Lombardis pizza and were all very full but we came across " rolled ice cream" and my daughter said " There is always room for a little dessert". She had been talking about rolled ice cream for weeks.

Recovery is literally heaven. And we take nothing for granted. All of this still gives me goosebumps and brings me to tears 6.5 years in.

Keep feeding! You can do it!

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Nice to hear from you.  As the parents of ED children we can all appreciate the little things in life that so often get taken for granted.   Enjoy your moment!

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mnmom - 

Our timing on the forum during the times our daughters were really struggling overlapped.  I recall your steely determination to not back down against your d's ED and used it as my model at times.

What a great and normal life you are leading.  Only a parent of a kid who had an ED can understand the joy in the excitement over a free pastry or going to get a bigger size...no big deal. 

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Love seeing this!  I think for those of us still battling the illness - it's hard to imagine that there will come a day where there is excitement over food again. 

Glad to hear that you and yours are living this!!

Blessings to you.
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Momon, I'm so happy to read this!  YAY for Panera pastries and prom dresses!  I remember when your d would only wear certain shorts/t-shirts!  Your perseverance has made all the difference.  Woo-HOOOO!!
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Dear mnmomUSA,

So glad to read this news and well done to you & your support.

I remember your posts back in 3013.

Thanks for posting this update as I am sure it helps those in the depths of the fight to believe that recovery is there.

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Thank you for the encouraging post and congrats on making it through to the other side.
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14 yr old d diagnosed with AN late December 2015 at the age of 12 after a 23 lb weight loss during prior 3 months. Started FBT/Maudsley at home on Christmas Eve with support from amazing local nutritionist specializing in ED and trained in FBT. WR Feb 2016 and now chasing growth and taking one meal at a time.
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Oops, sorry, mnmom, I had you confused with momon!!  That's what you get for wearing glasses!!

I'm still really glad to see your update though.  You are amazing!

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Hi mnmom and Colleen!

that was cute Colleen, as i was reading your post I was thinking, "Oh although there are a lot of similarities between mnmom and our story I hadn't remembered her daughter had the same clothing problem mine did ...." [smile]

mnmom, I am so very happy to read your excellent news and that your daughter is doing so well! Your story inspires me and I am holding the UCSD clinic as a card in my hand if needed -- in part  based on your family using it well into the recovery process. You are my hero! (among many on here [wink])

I have been lurking a bit on the forum trying to get energy to write our "Now it is the family's 4th anniversary of starting treatment." Things are pretty good but we are not all the way home as mnmom is describing. I will post in a while but just want to say.... my daughter also wore a prom dress this year on her own accord! That was indeed an exciting moment after all the  years of huge T's and baggy shorts!
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Such fabulous news for you all.  I can only imagine the joy you must feel when you get these messages.  You have all put in a tremendous amount of work to get to this point and you should be congratulated for kicking your D's Ed in the ass! [tongue]


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I love love love reading this. We are on 2 years since starting to fight this battle, and WR plus enjoying food again is just about the most beautiful thing I have seen in. Her. (Not grades, not achievements, but HEALTH and smiles). I was also a parent of a 13 yo telling me I am stupid, she hates this. Why am I runing her life, I make no sense,etc....

News flash about teen girls---THEY think they know more than we do. So even after WR, stabilizing for a year and finally having regular periods we have eye rolling and moods. The difference between this an AN is that she will honor the importance of eating even when she doesn't feel like it. We still have to remind her, but the end result is her willingness to tough it out.

I think that the hardest part for our kiddos is to trust that the food isn't going to cause them harm, it's important and especially necessary during those rapid growing years. DD started at 5'2" and two years later is over 5'8". It took a LOT of calories to keep that going. [smile]




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Thank you all for your kind words.  Momom....I do think we are operating on a similar timeline and mnmom and momom are very close together (even geographically).  I wish for you all the same success, and the same light at the end of that tunnel. You CAN do it. I believe in you....I remember someone else typing something similar on my early (desperate) posts and not really believing it.  But, it's true. Food and time will get you to the other side.
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