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tina72

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Hi dolphin,
maybe you have not punished yourself (for what?) but just forgotten. Try not to look back too much: now is now and you can do it better! I´m driving to the seaside tomorrow and will have a little walk there and if you can spend some time and do the same, then we are watching the same water rolling on the beach...I love that idea to share that with you in mind...[wink]
Send you a hug,
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Hi Tina, I hope you found some enjoyment from your walk by the sea. I loved how you said we could be connected by the water. It is comforting to feel this? It is so sad that the eating disorders cause so much unhappiness and I am sad that you also feel as I do.

I do find comfort too in the thought that we all understand each other here.
 There is no judgement.

Love Dolphin X

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I find it interesting that many of us become involved in the world of eating disorders once our children are better. This is often by helping others on a forum like this, or by writing books, by campaigning, writing to governments and health professionals, Speaking at conferences, even organising conferences. Some of us even find ourselves now working in the the world of eating disorders like me. I never thought 10 years ago I would find myself here doing what I do  maybe in a desperate attempt to try to change the system and stop parents having to go through what we have and still are going through?
Despite advances in the last 5 years alone, I feel there is still not enough support for parents/carers within the ED world. I am trying to look at developing a better support system for parents/carers in my work environment that goes beyond a "parents support group"and really identifies what we need and want most when we are trying to feed our children.

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I just love Batty's blogs , they have helped me so much.
Here is the latest on PTST ,  I found it to be really thought provoking,
Thanks Batty xx
https://anorexiaboyrecovery.blogspot.ie/2017/08/my-negative-trauma-story-re-written.html



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So good to know people actually READ my ramblings!! Thanks, Tooth.

I've got a recovery journal going because it really helps to write stuff down (which is also why I blog about it). This way it kind of ingrains itself inside my head and is also there for me to refer back to.

Reading Dolphin's post above... I yo-yo from feeling that we're all contributing our little bit to making big changes in raising awareness of eating disorders and what they're really like - and building parent support networks and so on.... to feeling as if we're only chipping off the tip of the iceberg and that this thing is so massive and progress so slow, indeed sometimes it's not progress at all (e.g. that some GPs, etc still don't have the first idea about eating disorders as I read on another post on this forum today), that I feel the sheer exhaustion of wondering if things will ever change. And then we get things like PTSD which make it harder for us to do our bit.

But thankfully while we may be incapacitated, there are others that plough on ('plow' if you're American!).

But it can seem so huge that we barely scratch the surface.

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tina72

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Hi dolphin,
I walked at the sea with my husband and we had two days nearly without ED (it just hit us with some phonecalls of d). It is not possible by now not to think about it a whole day but we get better in doing something on our own and for ourself. Yes it is sad that we all feel this negativ feelings and suffer this bad stuff. But it is better doing this together than alone, I think. I´m glad that you are all here.
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Hi Tina, I am glad you got a little respite from AN by walking by the sea. Nature is so calming and the sea is fabulous for the sole.
I have been away for a couple of days and it was a brief respite too for me.
I have been writing down my thoughts and memories about D and I have fond that this is becoming a helpful way to manage my emotions when I feel totally out of control, to have a chance to write is soothing and helps to contain my thoughts and my over stimulated brain. I have been pouring my heart out in these "letters" to myself and they are way too emotional!
I am having to wait until September to access CBT /EMDR assessment so in the mean time will be continuing with my counsellor so at least I will have some support.

I hope today is a good day [smile]

Much love
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Hi dolphin,
that is a good idea,I think I will try that, too. September is not so far, that is only a few weeks. We have waited so much in the last months/years. I really hope this will be a good day for you. Summer is fading a bit here in Germany, its not sooo hot any more and I like these days of "Altweibersommer", I think its called Indian Summer that will come soon.
Send you hugs!
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I've just spent a week away in a sweet little country cottage - just me and my bicycle, being super-chilled. Absolutely zero anxiety. Highly recommended!
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