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Wow Newbie. You are really on top of this. Agree with Torie. Make any fluid have calories in it to help stop the weight loss. I would push your luck to be honest and make sure she has a good breakfast before school (and no school if she doesn't finish breakfast) along with making sure dinner (evening meal) is eaten too. You've got nothing to lose at this point so leverage your success with tea. You might not feel like you can do this but you're doing it!!! It is truly a fake it until you make it scenario.
One thing I would advise is talk to her team before they talk to her to make sure they support this approach. I've seen too many parents who would have succeeded if their "professional team" hadn't cut them off and told their children and parents really old fashioned advice that was not evidence based. There are no underlying issues to solve first before your child will feel safe enough to start eating again (except genetics and you can't change that). The message she needs to hear from the team is she eats everything her family gives her with very short term rewards for eating (kazi67 gave some great ones) and very clear requirements to eat with consequences for not eating to prevent more weight loss (i.e. bed rest until the next meal or snack, no exercising, etc.)
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Haven’t been on here for a bit. Been struggling with it all to be honest. After the ED diagnosis, she was diagnosed with depression. I then had to take her for a blood test for a referral to the ED clinic and while we were there where I discovered she has been cutting. That was a shock. I figure it must be quite common for the two to go together from what I’ve read. The GP has now prescribed an anti depressant which she started a week ago. Next step is the mental health unit and ED clinic joint assessment which is in two weeks. Even though I know it’s only the assessment and not any treatment, I’m holding out so much hope that we will get some help for her soon. Went back to the GP today for a follow up after starting the meds and it turns out it was almost exactly a year ago that we first went there to get help for her anxiety and panic attacks. Things were meant to get better not worse
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depression and self harm are typical things with ED, as much as anxiety and panic attacs. But in most cases it is caused by the malnutrition and a brain defect that can be healed just by refeeding up to a healthy weight. Is your d WR now? Did you make her gain until her mood and behaviour changed? If not, than go on refeeding. It is a long term run and that tunnel is quite long before you see light. But without proper nutrition for the brain (and that means especially a lot of fat) she will not get better. In our case depression and anxiety got a lot better after WR. It took 5 more months with proper nutrition but now we see a big change in mood and behaviour. Keep on going. It will get better. Tina72
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Things were meant to get better not worse
I would argue that things are getting better newbie. You can't deal with what you don't know so now you are finding out all the things that need to be dealt with. ED loves secrets and thrives when there is secrecy involved. You are on top of this and getting her help which are all positive steps. Please do come back to share the struggles as well as the successes. If we only came her to post successes, this place would have died a long time ago. That's the beauty of a place where everyone knows to a certain extent what you are going through and can offer support as well as congrats and encouragement.
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I hope it's okay to be candid about this: medication is not likely to help your d's depression and cutting if she is still underweight. What your d needs most is food + time. Especially fats. I wanted so much to believe that antidepressants or some other magic medication would help my d (who was seriously depressed, suicidal, and cutting).
How is the refeeding going? xx -Torie __________________ " We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP ♡