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Mamaroo

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Went clothes shopping with my d yesterday, she wanted to wear size small, but when I asked her to try on medium she did without a fuss!
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My d had her last day in school today and they dressed up like "first schoolday" with old satchel and school cone and she really asked me if I can fill it again with sweets!
Never thought she would ever finish school and never thought she would ever eat sweets again one year ago...
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I really look forward to everyone posting here.  It gives me a smile to know that ED is being beaten around the world- moment by moment, person by person!
Mamaroo, Larger clothes,is HUGE progress. It feels so good to see that the size doesn't matter to her. Because ,IT DOES NOT MATTER!!

 edhater, Two fear foods and ice cream and chocolate chips! Amazing!! What a day in the edhater house- HURRAY!!

Last day of school tina, WOW. She has grown up!  And asking for sweets! These are the dreams you had and there it is in real life. You did this, you got her here. So wonderful!
May I ask what is a school cone? [smile]
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Hi scaredmom,
in the moment I wrote it I thought it might be the wrong word:
I need some help from you all to translate it because google translater gave me "school cone" and that seem to be wrong.

When kids go to school for the first day in Germany they get a big coloured paper cone filled with little gifts and sweets from their parents.
like that:
https://www.amazon.de/Schult%C3%BCte-Eisk%C3%B6nigin-verst%C3%A4rkter-Lackkarton-Filzverschluss/dp/B01DNER2R8

What is the correct word in english for it?
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Tina72,
Thanks for explaining.
I think cone is the best word. There is no wrong word [smile]. It is a cone filled with sweets! I love it. Wish we had that tradition here in Canada.
What a great way to celebrate going to school.
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Yesterday d’s Health teacher, the “ED guru,”,asked d if she wanted to watch a film on food labels. D answered, “no thanks, I am trying to avoid doing that”. Hehe 😜 1 point for d, 0 for ED guru!

I did send her the link to Eva’s resources for schools. So far I have heard nothing back and don’t expect to.

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Quote:
Originally Posted by beans
Yesterday d’s Health teacher, the “ED guru,”,asked d if she wanted to watch a film on food labels. D answered, “no thanks, I am trying to avoid doing that”. Hehe 😜 1 point for d, 0 for ED guru! I did send her the link to Eva’s resources for schools. So far I have heard nothing back and don’t expect to.


Yay for your girl! Our experience with the school nurse was a little bit like this. Because our D is so smart and such a good actress,  because ED was so strong, because I so desperately wanted to believe her that she was eating at school (why in the world did I believe that??? when even with support at home every bite was a battle???), because I was so clueless about EDs prior to her diagnosis and was in such a fog...for MONTHS....we were slow on the uptake. When we started to realize that she was ditching all food at school, the MD at our ED specialty clinic suggested she go to the school office to eat under supervision of the nurse. I talked to school administration, who agreed that was the only kind of support that the school could provide--either that or have us come in to eat with her each day, and that wasn't feasible due to work responsibilities. 

I had a bad feeling from the beginning about it. The nurse was such a nice lady....but I just had the sense that she didn't understand or even disagreed with what I was asking her to do. I told her that I needed her to actually supervise...and to watch for food being put in the garbage cans, in pockets, stuffed in cheeks to be spit out later. She was dismayed by this, told me that that would be 'treating her like a drug addict,' and not right/not respectful, because 'she is a good kid.' Her approach was to 'give her a friendly place to eat.' I tried to educate her and hoped for the best. I had our FBT therapist call her to discuss. Every day I sent an email listing everything that our D had in her lunch and snacks and to please let me know if she didn't see her eating each of these items. I never got a single message that she wasn't eating any of the food. 

We kept working hard on WR at home, and D was S-L-O-W-L-Y gaining. I couldn't believe how many calories it seemed to be taking! Incredible numbers! As she gained, she very slowly improved mentally as well. And then one day, she started giving me 'clues' about what was going on in the nurse's office. The therapist described this as her 'outing' the disorder. She couldn't quite challenge ED so much as to tell us outright, but she left a breadcrumb trail so that we'd know. It turns out that she NEVER ate the food we sent to school. The nurse actually had a garbage can right in the little cot room where she placed D to eat. The nurse sat at a desk in the anteroom and couldn't even see her clearly most of the time. D threw food in the garbage, packed food back into her backpack and pockets to throw away later, hid food under furniture, etc.

When I contacted the nurse about this, she was extremely defensive, and then began to challenge me, talking about how much knowledge she has about EDs from her nursing education. I was equal parts amazed at my own naiveté in accepting that the nurse was supervising and D was eating, sad that our schools could provide no better 'support' than this for one of their best students (while there are so many accommodations made every day all around me for a variety of other conditions), and angry that if the nurse wasn't willing/able to do what I had asked and acknowledge that she had no idea if D was eating the items on the emails lists I sent, that she wouldn't have at least informed me so that we could make other plans. 

The school administration was unfortunately zero help/support. It was an eye opening experience, to say the least. 

I am sending Eva's link to our schools today. I needed to wait a few days to make sure that I could approach it with a positive and helpful and HOPEFUL tone, not with anger. [wink] 

ED guru's are the worst. 

Regarding 'healthy' foods....yes. We are now thankfully in the latter part of phase II/transitioning to phase III and starting to work on a relapse prevention plan. When D herself was asked to list her 'warning signs' to watch for, the first thing she wrote down, without a moment's hesitation, was 'researching healthy meals.' You can bet that I will remember this!



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My DD, 17, is in a good place and has been for a while.  Recently Dr. said it was time to try reducing and then stopping her fluoxetine prescription.  That was a big moment for my DD and, in a smaller way, for me too.  It may be that it doesn't go well and she needs to resume the medication, but it may go well.
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It happened!!! After having a shared revision session with an old friend she hasn’t socialised with for years we drove him home and on the way back she unexpectedly announced “I’m hungry” (15 mins before scheduled tea time) 😁 I was so happy today!!!
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Fantastic news Teecee. I am desperate to hear those words “I am hungry”! Fantastic news Tina72 about your daughter and the sweets. It makes me happy to hear all the fantastic baby steps we are taking.
We went out for dinner tonight and my son said he didn’t want a starter. When the sharing platter came he tucked into pakora, onion rings, chicken wings, spring rolls and nachos. Then he has an adult portion of pasta on a big plate and even had some chips/ fries!
Never thought I would see the day! X
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Yesterday my D had bacon for breakfast as part of our "tackling fear foods" plan. She ate the bacon with little fuss but the gold star moment for me was helping herself to a glass of milk to go with her breakfast without me prompting or reminding her. She drinks milk every day (we are dairy farmers so there is plenty here!) but to do it without being prompted was incredible. About 8 months ago we had the mother of all ED explosions over a glass of milk. It was thrown across the kitchen and she tried to run out of the house, as I blocked the door she was so distressed she was screaming in my face that she would rather die than drink the milk. Eventually she drank some of the milk that afternoon which at the time was a gold star moment surrounded by unicorns and rainbows!! Unfortunately she got worse before she slowly started getting better and better. I chatted to her yesterday about the milk incident and she doesn't remember it at all, nothing about it whatsoever and yet I will never forget the look in her eyes yelling those words at me. Keep persevering, keep feeding it does get better.

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PS second period this week too!
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My D was shopping  for food, and there was a mother and daughter (about 11-12 years old) shopping in front of her.  The Mom asked her daughter about some cookies, and her daughter said - "how about these - they're thins - and they have less sugar and half the fat" Mom chimed in with "and less calories!"  My D said she was appalled at the mother and just wanted to shout "Yeah - but you're going to eat twice as many because they won't fill you up with all that diet stuff in them!" Good to know those nutritionist sessions are not a waste of time [biggrin]
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Fantastic news for you edhater. X
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