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flower_medicine

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Okay my D is hovering around a BMI of 15. She is 16. Has AN and is in the very deep depths of this wretched thing. We ,my husband and I are in the position of keep her alive until more in depth care can be given..ie IP ect... She has been restricting to the point she will only take liquid meals. Which are as of now ensures.I am following the model for re feeding and attempting to up her caloric intake 250 calories each day. In order to achieve this I bought benecalorie and started to add this to her ensures.She was drinking them on her own. Was! Now she found out about the extra calories and flat out refuses to drink them.So for the last 2 days my husband and I are having to hold her and give her her food through a medicine dropper placed in her mouth.She fights us the whole way. Although when it comes to each dropper she does allow me to put it into her mouth. Has anyone else here had to do this? Any suggestions , help or encouragement?
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Hi Flower_Medicine,

From what you are saying it really sounds as though your daughter needs to be in the hospital. How are arrangements for that going? I know you mentioned last week that you were waiting for a bed? 

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The current situation sounds very distressing for all of you.  You may need to take your d to A & E if she is refusing to take any nourishment, rather than fighting with a medicine dropper to get calories in.

As Kali suggests an inpatient bed may be necessary for the short term, to kickstart recovery.

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Hi flower_medicine,
maybe you can contact the IP and tell them that she is refusing food totally now and that could make your case an emergency case?
Force feeding is no good option, I think.
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Hi there,
I know you have been to ER with her previously and had a bad experience, but at this stage I would take her back today. Or can you take her to a different ER? 
I would insist on her being tube fed and refuse to leave until she is helped, preferably admitted until the bed comes up in Durham.
Here is a copy of the AED guidelines. I advise you to print them and read them and mark off the tests she needs and bring it with you.

http://www.nyeatingdisorders.org/pdf/AED%20Medical%20Management%20Guide%203rd%20Edition.pdf

Best of luck.

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) in 2015 ,had 4 months immediate inpatient,then FBT at home since. He is now in strong recovery,  and Living life to the full, like a "normal"[biggrin] teen. This is with thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time. Getting him to a much higher weight, and with a much higher calorie plan than his clinicians gave him as a target, was instrumental to getting him to the strong recovery that he is in now. Food is the medicine.
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Any options for getting her admitted or a NG placed?  It sounds like things have really gone downhill and are not manageable at home anymore.
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Hi Flower_medicine

I agree with the others, take her to emergency. Emphasise that she is dehydrated and that you are worried about her heart. My d was admitted based on her heart's condition (low heart rate) and not due to her eating disorder. Good luck!

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Hey there good news is ,someone from here explained to me that by feeding her myself I was in a way letting the ed win.I thought completely different but I tried her advice and after a looooong standoff she drank on her own, even knowing the extra calories were in there. as of today we will be up to 2370 a day..tomorrow 250 more. After that its food.She is going to have to eat to get those calories in.No more being backed in a corner by this demon an .  She even had a friend come over to exchange v-day gifts. Anyways still waiting and one way or another getting nutrition and calories in her.Thank you all

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That is great news! I am really facilitated that you do not need to do this any more. Try to make her eat small bites of "normal" food and then serve the ensure so that she stays used to using a spoon, a forc and just taste one bite if possible.
I hope you will get help soon.
Great that she had a friend to come over, try to invite her again, distraction is the most important thing at the moment.
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Really wonderful news...hang in there!

I found that my d didn't act out so much when others were around at mealtimes.  Not that we did this at the start mind you....but you may be surprised that having a friend around for a snack or meal as you move forward may help.  That 'normalized' eating with others is a goal too.

Cheering on your success!

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