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hannahy

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So, I noticed that my girlfriend is ALWAYS on a diet, even tho she's super skinny already. Plus, they r always very low calories (600 calories a day), and I know that every girl is always on a diet, but with her is a little bit over the top. (The only thing that she never stops is alcohol) but with food, she's eating less and less with the time. I tried talking with her and she just laughed and denied. Some of our friends agree with me and tried too, but she doesn't listen. I tried talking with her parents but they hate me and didn't give me the chance to talk. Most of her clothers don't fit her anymore and I can see her bones becoming more visible. I really don't know what to do, bc no one can force her to eat.
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Dear Hannahy,

You are a good friend to be concerned about your gf and want to help her.

We are not doctors and cannot diagnose eating disorders here or give medical advice. Your gf would need to be professionally evaluated by a doctor knowledgeable about eating disorders in order for a diagnosis to be made.

If you are concerned about how little she is eating, you could try again to let her parents know what you are noticing. If they will not speak with you what would you think of writing them a letter? 

If you are a student is there an adult at your school such as the school nurse, who you might be able to approach and talk about your concerns with? Perhaps the nurse could speak with her parents.

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Sorry that you are so concerned about your girlfriend. As Kali has said, we are not in a position to diagnose here, but she clearly has some concerning behaviours. 

It is normal for those with an eating disorder to deny they are ill, a condition known as anosognosia. So denial doesn't mean much, worse trying in this situation to convince them they are ill is also very difficult. 

Since you have tried talking to her parents, as Kali has said writing a letter may be of help, adding in some information about eating disorders at the same time may be of use. The FEAST puzzling symptoms brochure may be a good one to include. When talking to your gf expressing your concern for her well being, and being clear about what you are observing can be helpful.

For example :You are concerned about her binge drinking and her poor nutritional intake, and its effect on her physical and mental health.  You have noticed that she has not eaten for much of the day and that this will be affecting her mental health. 

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The thing about her parents is that after she told them we were dating they said they didn't want anything to do with her anymore. Some other friends tried to talk with them as well and they didn't listen. And about school, she's taking a year off before college to save money. The only "adults" in her life are her bosses.

I took her to eat at her favorite restaurant today and she only got salad and desert (Bc I almost forced her to eat the desert) and now she's saying how all the sweet is making her sick and she wants to throw up or that how running would help her. Then she got all grumpy because I said she was overreacting.
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Hi there,
Welcome from Dublin.
As previously stated we are not doctors, but it sounds like there may be a problem.
Is she over 18 and in what area of the world are you?
We may be able to point you towards local services.
Although this website that I am pasting a link to  is for younger sufferers , you may find it helpful.
Best wishes.
http://www.feedyourinstinct.com.au/

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Her parents need to be informed.

Maybe email them with her symptoms and attach the links we are giving you.

Including this -
https://www.anred.com/medpsy.html

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Son,DX with AN, (purging type) age 13 in October 2015 ,  (4 months immediate inpatient) , Then FBT at home since.and making progress every day. He is now in good recovery, and Living life to the full like a normal teen. We are not completely out of the woods yet, but we can see the light at the end of the tunnel, thanks to ATDT. Hoping to get him into full recovery and remission one day at a time.
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