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tammy

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I am so angry and disappointed with my kid’s school. My non ED daughter came to me today and said “I got this worksheet to do over the weekend but I didn’t do it as I thought it was wrong and that you would not be happy with it”. My daughter is eleven. She was asked to complete a food diary titled “ you are what you eat”. It asks the kids to record everything that they have eaten for a 24 hour period and asks them if it is healthy. It has a column for how the food was cooked, what country it comes from and how many calories are in it. One good thing is the teacher told them to ignore the column about calories but it was still there! It states “ If you exercise it will use up some calories. You need to eat enough to feed your body in order to live- but eat too much and it turns to fat which in turn may make you ill and unfit”. I am sure I don’t have to tell you all why this is wrong in so many levels. I am appalled that this was deemed appropriate to give to very impressionable children at a critical point in their development and transition into teenage years.

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Hi tammy,
you can be SO proud of your non ED daughter! She made such a clever decision not to do that at that age! Tell her that you are proud of her and that she could have shown you that on Friday and that she did the right thing. And have a serious talk to the school master. Take Eva Musbys advice for schools with you and try to stop that for the future.
Just the titel "you are what you eat" is so disgusting! It shows that you need to feel ashamed when you eat as "unhealthy" catagorized food. NO!!!
I am not what I eat! I am what I am!
Should we blame the Inuit for only eating fish and no vegetables? Should we blame poor people in Africa for not eating meat/proteins? Are they what they eat???
You are so right to feel angry and dissapointed. They seem to have understand NOTHING.
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You might like to use some of Eva Musby's material if you have the time/energy for some re-education. No harm if you don't as its still on my own to-do list.

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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
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Thanks Deenl and Tina 72. I should have mentioned that I had just had a meeting with the Head Teacher last week and had used all of Eva Musby’s brilliant resources. She was very interested and keen to work with me and has asked me to do an awareness training session with the teachers in August. She tells me that although health and well being is in the Scottish curriculum they have power to decide what resources to use and she has plans to review the teaching resources that they use.
I E mailed her yesterday with my concerns regarding this resource and to show her how things like this can slip through the net as this was a sheet used in a religious and moral education class!
Thanks for sharing my frustration!
Tammy
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Head. Desk. Bang.
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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Tammy, great job! I’m in the US, and my (at the time) 11-year-old d was given the same type of assignment in a health class. It was the trigger that launched us into a year and three months of fighting Anorexia restrictive type, and co-morbibs that had never been previously diagnosed. Thanks for educating your school about how serious eating disorders are and the role of “triggers.”
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I think there is really some study needed how much kids get into ED by health classes, healthy eating discussions and one-sided information about sugar and obesity in school. I would bet that not one overweight kid will weight less after such a program but some more are triggered into ED.
Please tell all teachers: THERE IS NO HEALTHY FOOD. IT IS A QUESTION OF AMOUNT.

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I echo the head desk bang comment!!! I would be so very disappointed as well.

We had an experience similiar in some ways. Our 14 year old recently WR daughter moving into phase II of FBT was in Science class one day. They were learning about gravity. They talked about the different magnitiude of gravitational forces on different planets. Then each student had to walk to the front of the class and weigh him/herself and use their weight to calculate what they would weigh on different planets based on gravity formulas! Are you KIDDING me?!? How could it possibly be a good idea to make middle school kids weigh themselves publicly???...ANY middle school kids, not just ED kids....

My daughter advocated well for herself, telling her teacher that she ‘wasn’t allowed to know her weight for medical reasons.’ (All of her weights have been blinded since very early in FBT, and it made a WORLD of difference for her.) But she had to say this publicly, and she had to stand firm when the teacher pushed back. GOOD GRIEF. I was so disappointed.
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Dear 4kgc, I am wondering whether it might be useful to include your story in my schools document, as an example of how every subject, every teacher, needs to be made aware these things are not OK. May I? Anonymously of course.
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"My daughter advocated well for herself, telling her teacher that she ‘wasn’t allowed to know her weight for medical reasons.’ (All of her weights have been blinded since very early in FBT, and it made a WORLD of difference for her.) But she had to say this publicly, and she had to stand firm when the teacher pushed back."

Tell her that she is a super heroe and we are all so proud of her. You could not have decided that better and it is great that she did it herself.
And I agree with you totally about blind weighing, we are doing that for 6 months now and it has changed a lot. I really do not understand why FBT manual wants them to know their weight. It does not help anybody at that state and later when they are in good recovery it is easy to change that again (if needed).

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Dear 4kgc, I am wondering whether it might be useful to include your story in my schools document, as an example of how every subject, every teacher, needs to be made aware these things are not OK. May I? Anonymously of course.


Yes, you may certainly use this illustration. It would be most gratifying to know that perhaps more people will learn and grow in their understanding.
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Thank you 4kgc, I have added the following on this page:

 

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In the following example, the teaching method  might have been weight-neutral in the teacher's mind, but I doubt it was for most of the 14-year olds in the class:

In science class they were learning about the gravitational forces on different planets. Each student had to walk to the front of the class, weigh him/herself and calculate what they would weigh on different planets! How could it possibly be a good idea to make middle school kids weigh themselves publicly?  

My daughter advocated well for herself, telling her teacher that she ‘wasn’t allowed to know her weight for medical reasons.’ But she had to say this publicly, and she had to stand firm when the teacher pushed back. 


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