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My D has gained 4 pounds in the last 4 days despite eating under her goals and exercising. I don't understand what is going on and I fear something is wrong medically. She is not purging or binging.
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If you are concerned there is something medically wrong then you should take her for immediate assessment. Things like heart failure can present with rapid weight gain. If she is not eating sufficiently and exercising she is at high risk of complications from her illness.
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Hi seeking life, could she have waterloaded before weighing. Ed makes our kids / adults do things so they will weigh more. They can hide coins or weights is this a possibility . If you are concerned for her medically get her checked . My d did these things to try to avoid hospitalisation but we knew because she was restricting so much she had to have weight loss she was re weighed some days later and needed admission .
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Hi Seekinglife,

If you are worried about your daughter could you take her to Veritas Collaborative in Durham for an assessment?
They would be able to let you know what the appropriate treatment for her would be.

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Hi seeking life, could she have waterloaded before weighing. Ed makes our kids / adults do things so they will weigh more. They can hide coins or weights is this a possibility . If you are concerned for her medically get her checked . My d did these things to try to avoid hospitalisation but we knew because she was restricting so much she had to have weight loss she was re weighed some days later and needed admission .


My D has weigh ins before she eats of drinks anything and is monitored from the moment she wakes up as she had a history. She also has to give a urine test and is usually on the dehydrated side
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Hi Seekinglife,

If you are worried about your daughter could you take her to Veritas Collaborative in Durham for an assessment?
They would be able to let you know what the appropriate treatment for her would be.

Best Wishes,

Kali


She has done this program before, her doctor is recommending looking back into it
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Dear Seekinglife,

If your daughters Dr. is recommending that she be assessed can you make an appointment for her? In the meantime, you can help your daughter at home by helping her drink more so that she is not dehydrated, and supporting her at mealtimes so that she can eat.

If it were my daughter I would want to make sure she was getting the best possible care. Recovery is possible.

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Dear Seekinglife,

If your daughters Dr. is recommending that she be assessed can you make an appointment for her? In the meantime, you can help your daughter at home by helping her drink more so that she is not dehydrated, and supporting her at mealtimes so that she can eat.

If it were my daughter I would want to make sure she was getting the best possible care. Recovery is possible.

best wishes,

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My D is 22 years old. Her doctor is saying she is not stable enough for outpatient and that she will not see her anymore. She has an RD and TX appointment this week and I am anxious that weight will be up again and she will stop eating entirely. She does not see the need for HLOC and is resisting as she is not as medically unstable as in the past.

I am at a loss on how to help while not making her feel forced as this leads to total restriction
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Dear Seekinglife

I am so sorry for your situation and your daughter's illness. 
If the dr will not see her anymore then she does need to be assessed, don't you think? 
Can you have the RD blind weigh her so she does not know her weight?

My d. is also a young adult, not a child and I don't force her, however, I do make it clear that her health is the most important thing and I insist that she be at the correct level of care which has varied from residential to php/iop, etc. You will need to stand your ground and be firm and loving and make an appointment and have her come with you. Why don't you phone Veritas, if she was there before they know her and you can explain what is going on and they can give you some guidance on how to proceed. 

Another thought is can you go to both appointments with her so that both you and the RD and you and the Therapist encourage her to seek a higher level of care together. She doesn't need to be medically unstable before entering a HLOC; If she is ill, at a suboptimal weight and can benefit from it that is criteria enough. 

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We ended up taking D to the ER last night. The gaining is continuing but all of her labs are stable. We are now looking into inpatient care more seriously.
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Seekinglife, 

I'm so glad you took your d. in to be checked and are considering further treatment for her.
If you look on the part of the board which has provider recommendations you can get some info about different treatment centers. 

Best wishes,

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Dear Seekinglife,

I am so glad you got your daughter into the ER.  Like kali, my d was a young adult when she was sick.  It IS challenging, but not impossible.

My experience was that all residential/inpatient facilities were not created equal.  My d was first in an old school program that did not practice evidence based care.  She mad no progress and deteriorated when she came home because they told us not to be the "food police", etc. 

When it was necessary for my d to go inpatient again, I felt like because of her age, it was my last best chance to get her well.  Thankfully, by then I had found this forum and I knew what evidence based care looked like.  I called more than a dozen facilities across the country and "interrogated" each admissions person for over an hour.  In the end, my d went to a great evidence based program that stabilized her and got us all on the same page. It was many states away, but we looked for the best match for her and not how close it was. She was by no means cured when she came home, but we were on the right path.  The program ensured that she not come home without a strong contract and that really helped to not lose the ground we had gained during her residential stay.  

There are so many wise parents on this forum that may be help you determine the best options for your d. 

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