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Dear all, my d diagnosed with anorexia last October(but probably ill since January), now weight restored.
She has written a blog which I would like to share with you in relation to some insight into the mind of someone with anorexia.
We move on now to her wanting to get on with a "normal" life and meet friends for dinner and go on dates, this I am finding terrifying at present, trying to find a balance with letting go and remaining hyper vigilant, she is not recovered but is recovering and life is certainly calmer than the re-feeding stage.
She in her own way wants to raise awareness of this vile illness and has bravely shared her blog on Facebook and twitter and finds this motivating to continue her journey.
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Mulbury thank you for sharing. I hope she gets lots of support from others and is able to raise awareness of ED.
__________________ 2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid. May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles.
Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle. If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination ) We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Thanks for sharing. In truth, it is hard to imagine how tormented our kids are by this illness.
Really glad for the progress your d is making, and that she is now spreading her wings to move forward. As a parent whose kid has been in firm recovery for a few years, I can still say that we keep an eye out for any concerning behavior. I think that is just par for the course when there has been an ED in the family. We are not hyper-vigilant, but transition times, such as starting a new job, new school program, getting married, getting pregnant can be tricky. It's wise for us to know this in advance, and be available as a safety net if need be. During this calm time, I hope you can start to enjoy the things that you did prior to ED in the house. It is a tricky time for parents too....resuming a 'normal' life, & letting go of some of the worry and challenge of refeeding etc. Thinking of you with warm support, sk8r31 __________________ It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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Thank you to you and your D. I have forwarded this to my relatives, husband and son. It is clear and honest, but most of all it breaks my heart. ED's are so misunderstood and frustrating for those not suffering from it, and your D gives personal insight into just how confusing and scary it is to the one suffering. Again, thank you.
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Thank you so much Mulbury for sharing this, I found it incredibly helpful and I wish I could have read it when we were at the lowest stage and my daughter refused all food and drink. Everyone constantly tried to coax her to at least drink and now I realise she probably had no idea why she wasn't able to, and if has helped me understand how dreadful it must have been for her. I have shared it with some friends and family too. Please thank your D and I hope she continues to do well.
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Wow, so honest. Thanks for sharing.
__________________ D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for a year and WR at age 11 in March 2017. Challenging fear foods and behaviours now.