<c>Around the Dinner Table<br><font size=3>Support forum for parents and caregivers of anorexia, bulimia and other eating disorder patients

<c>Around the Dinner Table<br><font size=3>Support forum for parents and caregivers of anorexia, bulimia and other eating disorder patients http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org <c>Around the Dinner Table<br><font size=3>Support forum for parents and caregivers of anorexia, bulimia and other eating disorder patients 60 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:58:53 GMT How do you "let go" http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696891 I am so grateful that Steph is where she is, safe and getting the treatment she needs BUT I just can't let go of the fact that when she made the near impossible decision to recover she was let down by "the system".<br><br>I know I did all I could and I shouldn't waste energy thinking about how betrayed she feels and how things should have been but my mind keeps going back to it and I get so upset.<br><br>Help??<br><br> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696891 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:45:08 GMT caroline Tomorrow on Womans Hour...Charlotte, Your Country Need YOU! http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696804 I wish I was going to be at home so I can call in, but will certainly be listening.<BR><BR><H2>Food Issues - Pre-Teen Anorexia </H2><DIV class="clearfix content">Can a child as young as eight really suffer from anorexia nervosa? Recent headlines claim that pre-teen eating problems are on the increase, and some professionals are blaming schools for placing too much emphasis on healthy eating and being a healthy weight. Whatever the causes and they are undoubtedly complex delay in diagnosis and treatment in anorexia is a real concern. So what is the difference between a picky eater and a child or teenager who is exhibiting the signs and symptoms of a serious eating disorder? Jane is joined by consultant child and adolescent psychiatrist Dr Dasha Nicholls from Great Ormond Street, and by Dr Adrienne Key, consultant psychiatrist and lead clinician to the eating disorders unit at the Priory Hospital, Roehampton<BR><BR>Wish Mamabear could call in <IMG border=0 align=absMiddle src="/images/boards/smilies/smile.gif"><BR></DIV><BR><BR> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696804 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:44:29 GMT caroline CAMHS appt http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696547 <p style="margin: 0px;"> </p><p style="margin: 0px;">How did the 1st Camhs appt go? Well i thought it was going semi well until she told D that although she thought she had some big issues that needed dealing with her weight was on the same centile as her height so she wasn't worried about it</p><p style="margin: 0px;">She asked me what I was concerned about and I said that I thought we were oon the edge of a very slippery slope and I didn't want us to go there and so she said to D 'try and eat proper meals so your mum doesn't worry'</p><p style="margin: 0px;">What more can I say to that? I know D is deep in ED thoughts and now this person has given her the impression that her wieght is fine and therefore in her eyes it is the green light to eat less and lose more.</p><p style="margin: 0px;">I am sooo frustrated and upset. I didn't expect much from them but i didn't expect them to almost dismiss the ED aspect of D's issues. </p> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5696547 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:03:14 GMT claire2207 Gok Wan on tv http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5695945 Think that is how he spells his name <br>He is on breakfast tv talking about a series coming up that seems interesting. Will be trying to help young girls with unrealistic body images. Got to go to work so won't see what it is called and when, maybe someone else can find out.<br> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5695945 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 08:43:24 GMT caroline distorted thinking http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694699 D has been doing really well the past week both with nutrition and mental status. Then last night it got weird and I feel worried and discouraged.  She was not happy about the dessert I served her (apple pie a la mode) and even though she ate it, she started to brood. She said a bunch of things to me in this weird sarcastic voice: that this whole refeeding process is all about me, that I have a master plan to want her to be fatter than me. According to D, I manipulate her dad and get him to say whatever I want to to our FBT therapist and then the therapist reinforces the plan all because I am manipulating everyone. She thinks I pulled the 3000 calories a day (she did figure that one out) out of a hat and am just crazy and bent on my desire to have her heavier than me. She went to bed mad at me and I don't know what this day will hold.<div><br></div><div><br></div> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694699 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:14:14 GMT mercedes Three Years Today http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694291 Three years ago today our d was diagnosed with AN at almost 14.  She will be 17 in a month.  I could almost have written <a target="_blank" href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/need-reassurance-or-help-moving-forward-5692310">Gobsmacked's post </a>as far as where d is in her recovery with a few exceptions.<br><br>She has a full, happy life - full time at school taking a rigorous schedule (we allowed her one AP class), has an active social life, participated on the HS gymnastics team (very low key), etc.<br><br>But, she is very irritable with us, has had<i><b> increasing</b></i> perfectionism (mostly with grades and school work), is obsessively worrying about college (she's a junior), has horrible memory issues, argues non-stop, can't read other people's feelings, etc.<br><br>Many eating behaviors persist: scraping her teeth on her fork, wiping her fork on her napkin, cutting food into tiny bites, breaking cookies and muffins into crumbs to eat, won't eat outside of meal/snack time, always take the smallest portion.<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list:Ignore"><span style="font:7.0pt "Times New Roman"">      </span></span></span> Angela Celio Doyle is now in Seattle so I have an appt. with her on Thursday and I'm hoping she can help us get past this limbo-land.</p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;">     I read NLH and Stubbornmum's posts on Gob's thread and think OK, maybe we should still be waiting for time to heal.  But at this point we really have to wonder if something else is going on.  I suspect from my conversations with Angela that she will request that we have a full neuro-pshycological work-up to see if anything else is going on.  </p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;">     Most recently d is starting to talk about community college here in our town instead of going away for university.  It would be so helpful if this were her decision and not forced on her by us.  I really don't see that in a year and a half she'll be ready to be on her own at a big university in a pre-vet program.</p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;">     She finally will acknowledge her illness but only in the past tense and does not see why she has to be at the weight she is.  She says if she went to college today she would try to lose weight and <i><b>she would be fine.</b></i></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><i><b>     </b></i>Honestly I have been very depressed this week coming up on this anniversary.  I hate ED, hate it, hate it.  Hate what it robs our children of and hate what it's robbed our family of.  That is why I will continue to fight for my d's full recovery.</p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;">     Thank you all for being the support I have needed for the past 3 years.  This is an incredible community for which I am very grateful.  <br></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><br></p> <br> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694291 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:27:05 GMT ihavehopeUS Article in Herald Sun-An appetite for change http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694117 <div>This article was in today's paper. It's great that the programme has received funding for this year.  </div><div><br></div><a href="http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/sunday-heraldsun/an-appetite-for-change/story-e6frf92f-1226262680127" target="_blank"><a href="http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/sunday-heraldsun/an-appetite-for-change/story-e6frf92f-1226262680127" target="_blank">http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/sunday-heraldsun/an-appetite-for-change/story-e6frf92f-1226262680127</a></a><div><br></div><div>There was also another article,  (page 24 of paper) by the same journalist, but I could not locate it on line about the record number of young people battling EDs in Victoria alone, and the long waiting lists for treatment. It highlighted the huge increase in urgent admissions to Monash Children's this year, 5 in the 1st 20 days compared to 15 for the whole of 2011. It also highlighted how GPs fail to recognise how seriously ill many of the children are.</div> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694117 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 00:39:09 GMT LisafromAustralia Introducing Alex2 http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694132 I am so sorry that you and your daughter are going through such tough times. You do however, sound as if you are doing all you can to help her fight the beast burrowed deep within her. Poor kid. <BR><BR>I can understand as my daughter has been fighting me all the way too and after trying 3 different medical teams feel as if the beast is winning. <BR><BR>I wish I could offer you some moral support but I am new and have not ever posted on this site before and I am selfishly here to ask anyone for some guidance on how to help my daughter. <BR><BR>She is 14 and eating only what she needs to either maintain or lose a pound. She has consumed about 1,500 calories today and complains that she can not eat anymore. She refuses high calorie snacks, screams, swears, demands and tries to control what I cook and feed her. She will not drink more than 1 juice box a day and refuses ensure or protein drinks of any sort. <BR>I have tried to get help from doctors, specialists, nutritionist but no one will help me help her. <BR><BR>Please if anyone has any advice at all please reply.<BR><BR>I have tried every high calorie recipe I can think of, research, read books, tried to force her to eat, drink, nagged, eased off, but she will not comply. <BR><BR>Please anyone, anyone?<BR> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694132 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 00:37:18 GMT Alex2 Substance Abuse http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694002 What can you tell me about the anorexia and substance abuse? <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5694002 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 22:41:56 GMT slis Getting nasty http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693914 <TABLE class=nested_invisible_table height="100%" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD vAlign=top colSpan=4 height="100%"><SPAN id=post_message_><P><SPAN>It wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>pretty ea<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>y<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>o far becau<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>e D wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>quite compliant. But the weight gain wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>very<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>low,<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>o we put her in a 2 day/week IOP (ba<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ed on T'<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>recommendation<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>). After 3 week<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>of IOP, I realized that they don't follow Maud<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ley at all. I'm not<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>uppo<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ed to be "food police", I'm not<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>uppo<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ed to force food on her, etc. - that'<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>what<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> </SPAN>wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>put in D's head. <SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">S</SPAN>he ha<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>a meal plan (developed by D and her nutritioni<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>t) which<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>he ha<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>no intention to follow what<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>oever (she's 13 and never in her life had any meal plans). Of cour<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>e everything became very complicated. Thi<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>morning, I decided to challenge her with<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>omething new (not really new a<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>it wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>her OK di<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>h before ED) but totally according to her meal plan (a<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>far a<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>the exchange<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>). <SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">S</SPAN>he didn't even touch it, threw it out in the garbage. I had extra,<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>o I replaced it immediately. Didn't touch it again, ended up in the garbage again. Told her<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>he had to drink 3 Pedia<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ure<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>in<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>tead. <SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">S</SPAN>he dumped like 5 or 6 bottle<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>in the<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>ink or on the floor. I kept replacing and replacing. Finally, after 2 hour<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>of wild<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>creaming,<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>he drank 3 bottle<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>. I have no idea how many time<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>I<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> </SPAN>wa<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>hit, bitten,<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>lapped in the face (how am I<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>uppo<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ed to react when<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>he doe<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>it?)   I feel like I need to quit either the IOP or Maud<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ley - no way both can be done at the<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>ame time. The pediatrician i<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s </SPAN>al<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>o<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>upportive of IOP,<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>o I would be left with no profe<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN><SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime">s</SPAN>ional help on my<SPAN id=dtx-highlighting-item dtx-Highlight-BackgroundColor="lime"> s</SPAN>ide.  I really don't know what to do. </SPAN></P></SPAN></TD></TR><TR><TD vAlign=bottom align=middle colSpan=4><SPAN id=loading_ style="DISPLAY: none"><B>Loading...</B></SPAN><SPAN style="FLOAT: right"></SPAN></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><P><BR></P> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693914 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:03:43 GMT summer97 She seems depressed http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693912 I had my first good talk with my D about her fear of bingeing today. It's the first time she admitted that she is afraid of becoming a binge eater. She also said she would accept my help with keeping structure to her eating and not grazing for now because her appetite needs to regulate. The problem is she seems so depressed. She's struggling with her social life for the first time, she is struggling to study, and she just wants to lay in bed. Maybe it's time to try an antidepressant? She was seeming better over the last month, but is now tearful and feeling hopeless. <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693912 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:02:06 GMT Iris Back in hospital http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693426 Just wanted to let you all know D is back in hospital.......so asking you to keep her and us in your prayers. <div>Have had to fight to get her admitted but are relieved, and we think she is too. Tube is in and while we hated demanding it, we are glad the nutrition is going in.</div><div><div>Wish some of you lived around the corner.</div></div> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693426 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:55:52 GMT robynm Ed and extreme selfishness http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693303 Just need to sound off really, and see if others have had similar experiences.<br /><br>On Thursday my mum was taken to hospital in an ambulance, extreme groin pain, could have been cancer metastasis, or a broken hip. She lives in Holland, I'm in the UK.<br /><br>Whilst waiting for news I decided to carry on with the planned day, family therapy followed by supported supper.<br /><br>Packed a bag and passport just in case I had to go to Holland, the ip unit is close to Bham airport.<br /><br><br /><br>When I got to the unit I explained this to D.<br /><br>Her response was " Yeah, does that mean I don't have to do supported sandwiches with you later?"<br /><br>No concern whatsoever for her nan or me.<br /><br>I told her off at this point.<br /><br><br /><br>Family therapy was hard, all sort of emotional stuff came out, D sat behind the screen so she could listen in. Again, not much concern at all.<br /><br><br /><br>The senior nurse decided to sit in with the sandwiches as D was very reluctant due to them being mayonnaise based. She really, really played me up, or ed did, everything I said or did was used as an excuse to cause delays etc.<br /><br>My mobile went half way through , I answered it in the corridor, explained it was my brother in law.<br /><br>She never asked what the latest news was.<br /><br>She wanted Fortisip replacement, so tried to sit out the half hour, the nurse decided she would eat regardless as this needed doing.<br /><br>So eventually she ate, even the nurse got frustrated and to her to stop playing me up so much.<br /><br><br /><br>I couldn't stay for visiting afterward, and she stomped off anyway.<br /><br>Hasn't texted or phoned me at all to see how her nan is ( much better btw, still in hospital but nothing sinister)<br /><br>She going to her dads on leave this weekend,which I'm selfishly glad about, as part of me is pretty upset with her.<br /><br>Would ed really make her this selfish?<br /><br>Or is this stroppy teenage behaviour??<br /><br>Anyone else come across this??<br /><br><br /><br>Ps I'm going to find out when she's next having Mayo based sandwiches and I'll be there again... <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693303 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 10:54:50 GMT Purple One step forward, 2 steps backb http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693269 Hi all,<div><br></div><div>We are no longer in the "last 10 pounds" as I was hoping we were. D has lost weight last week and ED is in full force again unfortunately<img border="0" align="absmiddle" src="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/images/boards/smilies/frown.gif">. </div><div><br></div><div>D is very bored with her life as she is unable to go to Uni and unable to work full time until her wt is up more, she is feeling very low and ED is trying to negotiate all kinds of "deals" with me and her T. It is very hard to cope with at the moment as she was doing well and had regained 10 pounds. Is this a relapse? it cant be as she is no where near w/r yet and needs to regain about 16 pounds or so.? We are stuck in limbo land and I feel we are going round in circles and I know we need to feed more and we are trying to do this without much success at the moment. I discovered she has hidden scales in her room as we had thrown out the others! I am beginning to feel desperate again and need a hug from someone please. I have all 3 pairs of Big Girl Pants on at the same time but need to believe we can get through this part of the journey. My big concern is that due to D being an adult now, and having been ill with a different ED for 3 years, she will never fully recover?</div> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5693269 Sat, 04 Feb 2012 09:25:33 GMT Dolphin Story for those in the trenches...never give up http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5692579 <p style="margin: 0px;">Today I had a gut instinct to go for a surprise visit to see D during her snack. I had sent a large muffin and juice with her and this am she was not super thrilled about it. So I show up and she is eating it and said "Hi mom. What are you doing here?" I said "I just thought I would stop in. I know you were sick last week and I just wanted you to know that I am always here for you and always sending you support and love." Then we talked awhile about what it means for her to enter full recovery etc. She said "Mom, maybe it is a good idea if I have a peanut butter shake today. I kind of feel like one anyway." I said "Awsome. I will make sure to have it ready/" Then she said "Since I am having a muffin and a peanut butter shake, can I not have as big of a dinner?" I just gave her a look and she said "Woops. That was ED wasn't it?" I said "Yes- and you caught yourself.....and THAT is what will get us to full recovery. When your sister walked in the door yesterday, her and her friend spilt a tube of cookie dough, string cheese, and go-gurts. They did not ask me when dinner would be, what time we were eating, or if they could eat less. THAT is NORMAL for a grwoing kid." D said "Thanks mom. Thanks for coming. It means a lot to me." </p><p style="margin: 0px;">               A year ago my daughter was a mentally ill, very sick starving child. The days last forever, and at times it feels like the horror will never end........but it can....with food and love and hard work and patience. I needed to hear stories like this in the beginning- it helped get me through. That is what FEAST is for.......so keep feeding and loving and never give up.</p> <p>Forum: <a href="http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/?forum=136439">Around the Dinner Table Forum</a> http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post?id=5692579 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:50:21 GMT mamabear